What do you want to manifest? That’s the question I ask when I am doing my Radical Manifestation workshop. “A mate,” comes the reply, nine times out of ten.
“No problem,” I say. “It’s the easiest thing in the whole world to manifest.”
“Why? Because there are millions of people out there who are looking for the same thing. The only reason you don’t have it right now is that instead of using the Law of Attraction, you are using the Law of Repulsion. Turn that around and you will have your mate.”
“Turn it around how?”
“Do a Radical Manifestation worksheet. Describe what you want in a mate and Spirit will do the rest.”
Even though I explain exactly how to do a Radical Manifestation worksheet in both my Radical Manifestation book and my new book, Expanding into Love, the worksheet itself is pretty much self-explanatory. It is not rocket science. You can download it in the Free Stuff section in Colin’s Cafe (our membership site).
However, in Expanding into Love, I suggest you follow five important rules if you want any relationship you create to be successful and not a disaster. These are:
Rule #1. Leave a significant amount of time between leaving one relationship and even thinking about creating another.
It takes a lot more time than you think to energetically disengage from the previous relationship, especially if it was deep, long-standing and, in the end, painful.
If you leap into another relationship to soon, you will take all the unresolved issues with you and recreate the same patterns with your new partner.
I would suggest a break of at least one year. Use the time to do the work suggested in Rule #2 and learn to be alone. Find out who you are separate from another person.
Women beware! Men nearly always break this rule. They can’t stand to be without a mate. Many replace a relationship even before they are out of the old one.
Rule #2. Do the forgiveness work on your previous partner.
And I don’t mean just doing one Radical Forgiveness worksheet. Keep doing them until there is no energy left in the situation: No anger; no resentment; no jealousy; no pain; no regrets.
If you want your new relationship to work, it is essential that you release all those energies. Hence the need to follow Rule #1.
Rule #3. Be clear about what you want and don’t want in a relationship.
Get very clear on your values and boundaries and resolve never to compromise on them.
Think long and hard about what you feel are the most important things you will want in your relationship, and what you will not tolerate. Make a list.
Don’t settle. If you do, you will regret it, I promise you.
Rule #4. Scope your partner out before committing. Be a detective.
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard of someone finding their ‘soul-mate’ – the perfect partner who is loving and caring – and then after six to twelve months, the new person turns into a tyrant.
The reason why this happens is explored in depth in my book, and you need to understand this dynamic if you are going to avoid being badly hurt.
I also share with you in that book a rather more sneaky way to check up on a prospective partner who has been married before. It is risky, but it’s probably worth it.
Rule #5. Don’t Imagine You Can Change Him/Her.
Women are mostly the ones who bring suffering upon themselves by not following this rule.
It is very common that women say to themselves, “If I love him enough, he will change and become what I want him to be.”
It never happens, so please abandon this disastrous strategy. It causes a lot of pain.
All this and more is explained in great depth in Expanding into Love. The opportunity to get a copy inscribed and signed by me if you pre-order it now, plus two months free membership in the Radical Living Online Community, is still available. Click here for more details and to pre-order the book.