The more technology shrinks and connects our world, the more we are confronted with challenges that we have to deal with, almost on a daily basis. As I watch it all unfold, I will be inspired from time to time, to focus attention on and share with you how my Radical Living Strategies can help all of us meet our challenges with greater ease and compassion. My hope is that these offerings give you the insight you need to create the peaceful, fulfilling life you desire.
I have to admit to having been a bit reluctant to wade into the swamp that is now the Gaza situation, but I feel the need to do so now.
That’s because it’s a prime example of where we can make a real difference by using one of the tools associated with one our Radical Living Strategies – the Radical Transformation Worksheet.
This ‘Tipping Method’ worksheet empowers us to begin transforming the energy of any world event out there that seems to us to be tragic or disastrous. And this thing between Hamas and Israel certainly qualifies as being that and more.
Although it seems on the surface to be about rockets, tunnels and the blockade of Gaza by Israel, we know that what really fuels the conflict is a deeply ingrained victim consciousness on both sides.
Unless and until that is changed, no amount of political pressure, diplomacy or military intervention will have any effect whatsoever.
Any Jew will tell you that the Jewish race carries the victim identity like no other. It has acted it out over centuries to perfection and is continuing to do so today, even while it learns now what it is like to be the persecutor of another race.
The Palestinian history, too, is one that is characterized by persecution and displacement, so you’d think each race might understand each other’s pain and generate some empathy between them.
But each have their own victim identity and see the other as their victimizer. It is the classic attack and defense cycle that has served to keep human beings separate from each other for eons.
But we each have to admit we do exactly the same. We all create separation in all sorts of unpleasant and sometimes violent ways and justify it with a strong sense of righteousness.
No wonder this war is making us feel so uncomfortable. It is mirroring for all of us how capable we all are of creating separation just for the sake of it.
Herein lies the potential of the Radical Transformation worksheet. Through its use, we can transform the energy in Gaza and Israel if we first forgive ourselves for creating separation, forgive them for doing the same and then try to see the perfection in the situation.
We will shift the energy in a very powerful way if we hold it that there is a purpose in each of the protagonists battling it out to the point of exhaustion and that the people who are dying and wounded are souls that have volunteered to act this drama out in that way for all of us, so we can heal.
(Brokering a cease-fire is a knee-jerk reaction and will not change anything. It is just a symptom of our own discomfort as we look in the mirror.)
Breakthrough comes AFTER breakdown; not before.
As the breakthrough occurs for them, they would see themselves in the mirror and wake up to the fact that separation is an illusion. It might even dawn on them that we are all one and that they are simply fighting themselves.
If both sides (and us too) are able to use the war in this way to raise our vibration, it might be a catalyst for the massive shift in consciousness we are all hoping for.
If you get this and feel inclined to take a few moments to help bring the two sides to the point of breakthrough through projecting healing energy into the situation, download a Radical Transformation Worksheet now and know that by filling it out, you will be making a significant difference. All mass healing starts with the individual.
P.S. This video was passed to me today. You might like to watch it. The title is Forgiveness is at the Heart of Human Greatness. It actually inspired me to write this blog.
Over the last several weeks, I’ve been writing about overcoming addiction, perfectionism, past trauma, and anger. I want to share this video, it has, in the past generated a lot of discussion, and I hope it will be a good reminder for you to watch out for the ways we cover up our pain. Which ones reflect your avoidance strategies?
Anger scares people. Men especially are frightened of it because they fear they might lose control and hurt someone if they allow themselves to really feel it.
David Hawkins, MD., Phd., the author of Power vs Force, put anger fairly high on the list of his Scale of Consciousness. He says that, so long as it can be given expression and is not repressed, it is good because it spurs into us action. It is a creative emotion.
At the same time, it can cause great damage if not properly controlled and managed. Knowing how to control one’s anger without denying it or suppressing it is, therefore, of paramount importance.
Radical Forgiveness can help.
The best working definition of an emotion is a thought attached to a feeling. Which comes first depends on the type of stimulus, but my guess is that in most cases it is the thought that causes the chemical reactions in the body that we register as the feeling.
The emotion is the result of cause and effect. The thoughts are the cause and the feelings are the effect.
The feelings themselves happen automatically and are beyond our control. What we do have dominion over, however, since they are the cause, are our thoughts.
This means the key to managing our emotions is to consciously monitor what passes through our mind. Then, be open to thinking in ways that will reduce the likelihood of these emotions causing a violent or extreme emotional response like rage, terror or shame.
The most obvious cause of strong feelings bringing out our worst emotional response is victim consciousness.
If we believe we are always the victim in every situation, and other people are responsible for our discomfort and every unpleasant situation that occurs, then anger will almost always be our default response. We will feel justified in feeling this way and become very self-righteous.
If, on the other hand, we are grounded in the Radical Forgiveness philosophy that says we are always accountable for what happens in our lives, and that, in spite of how things appear, nothing wrong or right is happening, then our emotional response will be very different. (Given a little cooling down time perhaps!)
We can avoid going into Victimland by using the 4-step, Emerge-n-See Radical Forgiveness process. The four steps are:
1. Look what I created!
2. I notice my judgments but love myself anyway.
3. I am willing to see the perfection in the situation.
4. I choose peace.
If we can remember to do this, the belief in the Radical Forgiveness idea will come to be part of the mix and will begin to modify our response. Nevertheless if tempers do not cool sufficiently and we are still feeling like victims, we may have to manage the anger that arises in the moment. You do this in four stages.
Stage 1: Recognize the Feeling. Acknowledge to yourself that you are angry. Bear in mind that anger is a secondary emotion and is usually sitting on top of another emotion, such as hurt, sadness, jealousy, fear, resentment, disappointment, etc. Anger is used as a way to cover up the real pain and protect the heart. So, if you are aware, you might be able to identify the emotion under the anger. If not, that’s OK. Just feel what you can feel.
Stage 2: Accept the feeling. Be OK with the feeling and love yourself for having it. You are a human being and it is natural that you feel anger in this moment. Do not judge it. Remember, there is no such thing as a negative emotion. It only becomes negative when you deny, suppress or repress it. Emotions give you feedback about whether you are lowering or raising your vibration, so they all serve a good purpose. They cover a wide range from utter despair to perfect bliss, and we are all given the capacity to feel them all. Who are we to say that any one of them is bad?
Stage 3: Delay the Expression of the Feeling. This may not be necessary. If it is safe to express it in the moment, go ahead and do so. If, on the other hand, it would not be appropriate, delay the expression of it until it is safe to let it go.
Stage 4: Express How You Feel. Find a safe way to get the feelings out of your body by doing something physical, like speaking it out, crying, shouting, beating cushions, chopping wood or any kind of activity. It helps if you have someone with you to be a witness.
So, be OK with anger, but ‘stay cool’ with Radical Forgiveness. It might keep you out of a whole lot of trouble.
There are many ways in which you can become traumatized, especially in childhood. Trauma is caused by events that destroy your sense of security, your trust in everyone around you and even threaten your life.
The more fear there is involved, the more intense the trauma is likely to be. It can be caused by a one-time event like a car crash, a natural disaster or a violent attack. Sexual abuse is almost always intensely traumatic.
Trauma can also come from being in an ongoing, highly stressful situation, such as living with an abusive dysfunctional family or in a crime-ridden area. Fighting a diagnosis of cancer or similar serious illness is very stressful. The sudden death of a loved one is often traumatic, too.
We all have natural defense mechanisms that help us cope with the shock and the fear experienced in traumatic situations.
Denial, going out of body or disassociating, and suppression of emotional pain are typical mechanisms, and they work well as a temporary fix.
Some people come out of it after using these mechanisms for a while. Others don’t.
They become depressed, addicted to mind-numbing substances, and often exhibit mental and behavioral problems. This becomes identified as post traumatic stress syndrome.
Of course, anyone who has been severely traumatized and has not yet come out of it should seek qualified professional help.
However, let me explain why I think Radical Forgiveness Therapy should be at least part of your protocol if you have been traumatized.
If your trauma was, or is, less severe and you are functional, it might well be sufficient. Let me explain why.
When we look at trauma from a Radical Forgiveness perspective, the suffering is reduced if we can begin to be open to the idea that the traumatic experience could possibly have been what your soul created for its learning.
If you can go there – and it is a very big step – you might find yourself able to wean yourself off some of the defense mechanisms so you can find a way to talk about it.
That’s always the first step in dealing with a trauma. That’s also the first step in the Radical Forgiveness process.
The more you talk, the more the tension is released from your mind and body. Being encouraged to focus on body sensations as you talk gets you more in touch with the memories and feelings you experienced at the time, as well as those you feel as they relate to your story. (Feeling the feelings is the second step in the Radical Forgiveness process.)
One of the effects of having some of the defense mechanisms made permanent is that you may have numbed out. You are unable to feel your feelings. It’s not that the feelings are not there. You just are unable to access them.
Again, doing something physical helps discharge pent-up “fight-or-flight” energy – something explosive and fast moving like beating some cushions with a tennis racquet.
Beating the cushion is a technique I use all the time in Radical Forgiveness Therapy. You have to get in touch with the raw emotion behind what happened. You cannot heal what you don’t feel. That’s especially true when there is real trauma involved.
But I never recommend that you do it on your own without having support from someone who can hold the space for you to go through your anger.
The 3rd stage in the Radical Forgiveness Process is where we try to take some of the heat out of the trauma by trying to rationalize it, understand why it happened, and so on.
The fourth step is where we go into overdrive in the healing process. It is the part where we introduce the idea to the traumatized person that their Higher Self had a hand in creating the situation for it’s own learning and growth.
However, the timing has to be right. The Radical Forgiveness reframe has to be introduced carefully and with due respect for the person’s existing consciousness at the time.
If it is proposed too early, the person can be re-traumatized. The idea that they created it and that, from a spiritual perspective, it was entirely perfect might be just too radical.
My main experience over the years has been with people traumatized through sexual abuse and other relationship-based traumas, as well as those having lost someone in tragic circumstances.
But no matter whether a person has been traumatized by a car accident, a severe injury, or a breakup of a relationship so difficult they can’t move on, or when people in any way feel they are unable to have a normal life because of what happened to them, I am totally convinced that Radical Forgiveness Therapy is at least part of the answer.
It saddens me that so many people remain burdened by a trauma all their lives just because they haven’t been given the chance to see it from the Radical Forgiveness perspective. I hope this will change when we all start to wake up to this truth.
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The way out of an addiction is to first find out what pain is being medicated by the substance or experience of choice, and then to use the tools of Radical Forgiveness to release the pain.
It really is that simple.
During dinner with a few people one evening, I happened to overhear a conversation in which a guy was saying he had been 14 years sober, once he realized he was using alcohol to medicate the pain of having been sexually abused as a baby by his mother.
But then I heard him say, “But you know, I will never be free of my addiction until I know why she did it.”
So I piped up and said, “Then you are screwed, aren’t you?”
“How so?” he asked quizzically.
“You’re screwed because you are making your healing contingent upon getting an answer to an unanswerable question. No one knows why. And, ‘Why?’ is a victim’s question, anyway.”
“Oh. So what do you suggest?” he asked in a sarcastic tone.
“Hang out in a different question,” I replied. “Like, ‘I wonder what the gift might have been in having had my mother do that to me?’
“It’s an equally unanswerable question, but a much better question to hang out in than the other one. This one will free you from your addiction, whereas the other dis-empowers you and keeps you tied to your addiction.”
He didn’t like it, but the next day I got a phone call from him. “I have been up all night thinking about what you said, and I get it. You have saved my life. Thank you.
I truly believe the 12 step approach is the best we have at this time and remains a divinely inspired program. However, as this story shows, Radical Forgiveness takes it one giant leap further and offers a less shame-based way out of the addiction.
All addictions are created out of a need to medicate emotional pain so as not to feel it. The guy in the story got further than most. The majority of addicts get stuck at Step 4, which is where they are asked to take a moral inventory of all their defects. (The very term ‘defects’ is shaming.)
For most it is just too painful to bring all that deeply repressed shame to the surface. So they duck the process and become addicted to meetings instead and often remain dry drunks.
If, at stage 4, they would use both Radical Forgiveness and Radical Self-Forgiveness to process the events, it would make a huge difference to their healing.
They could then look back at their lives and come to terms with what has happened to them by recognizing there was a spiritual purpose in everything that happened.
They would then be able to free themselves from shame and blame and be able to continue with the remaining steps.
It would also be of great assistance to those who get to Step 9. This step requires they make amends to people they have harmed.
Doing some Radical Self-Forgiveness and Self-Acceptance beforehand would give it greater meaning and more authenticity.
That’s because they would be doing it, not out of a sense of obligation, but with a different consciousness – more from their heart, with a great deal of love and gratitude for the person they are apologizing to.
They would also be doing it with a different mind-set. While accepting full responsibility for what happened, they would come from a place of knowing that some higher purpose was being served.
That said, I am actually quite skeptical about the advisability of doing an amends for long-ago hurts, and the bigger the harm done, the more skeptical I am. It can re-traumatize the victim and open old wounds. All too often it comes over as dumping, benefiting only the person doing the amends.
If one does the Radical Self-Forgiveness process on oneself first, and then, in solitude, goes into the heart and asks for forgiveness from the other person and from oneself, that is much more effective than doing the amends as “a process.”
It leaves the other person out of it completely, has no potential to re-injure the victim, and will have a much more profound effect for both of you. Moreover, it can be done many times over as a meditation until such time as it feels complete.
What I have seen, ironically, is that the person to whom the amends would otherwise have been directed will feel the shift in energy. Often the person offers their forgiveness quite spontaneously and without prompting.
It is amazing how this happens, and is far more healing for the victim (and for you) if they come to a place of forgiveness on their own.
If you are in a 12 Step Recovery program, I suggest you familiarize yourself with the process of Radical Forgiveness and Radical Self-Forgiveness. Many of these tools are available in Colin’s Cafe.
Discuss it with your sponsor so he or she knows what you are doing and is in alignment with it.
Perfectionism is not a virtue. It is a neurosis. It is an obsessive need to be perfect and to do everything perfectly even if such rectitude is not required. Perfectionists do not look for perfection – they look for the imperfection.
And they will always find it – both in themselves and everything they do. They can never be satisfied.
Perfectionism is an expression of the underlying belief that “no matter how hard I try, it is never enough.” It comes from having parents who were themselves perfectionists.
They set the bar high, and if it was reached, they would immediately raise the bar. Whatever was presented, it was never enough. “You can always do better.” This led to an even more damaging belief: “I will never be enough.”
I have no evidence for this, but I have yet to meet someone with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) who is not afflicted with the disease of perfectionism.
Doesn’t it make sense that if you live your life out of the belief that no matter how hard you try it will never be enough, that one day your body will say, “Why bother? I might as well shut down, withdraw my energy and give up?”
The underlying driving force behind perfectionism is a strong and ever-present need for the approval they never got from their over-demanding perfectionistic parents.
However, the problem is that no one else will do. No matter how many people give them approval in later life, it is the love and approval from their parents that they consistently crave and can never get. It’s a deep wound and a deficit of love they can’t seem to make up.
So what to do about it?
Well, the first thing to do is love and accept yourself for being a perfectionist. It is important not to begin from a place of having done it wrong. You haven’t. It’s just that now it’s time to do life a bit differently so you can enjoy it more. You can do this by using the 13-Steps to Radical Self-Forgiveness.
The second thing to do is forgive your parents for giving you the neurosis in the first place. They didn’t mean to wound you, and they no doubt didn’t realize that by being so demanding of ever-increasing high standards they were in fact withholding love from you and damaging you.
Nevertheless, the fact is they did, and subconsciously you are full of rage about it. So that needs to be expressed and released from your body using all five stages of the Radical Forgiveness process. You also have to give up your addictive need for your parent’s approval and get that out of your body.
The third thing to do, after having done the above release work, is begin to change your habits. Like any addiction, your perfectionism is hard to break even after you have taken away the underlying cause of it. It’s an old habit that you need to try to break.
Fortunately, you have inside you an Inner Slob. Someone who would really like to be untidy, sloppy, relaxed and slothful when there is no real need to be otherwise. So make an effort to love your Inner Slob. Make friends with it and let it come out from time to time.
You may have to coax him or her out because it seems so foreign to you. You will need to practice being a slob from a time, just to feel what it is like to be other than perfect. Here’s what I have suggested in the chapter dealing with perfectionism in my latest book, 25 Practical Uses for Radical Forgiveness.
Finally, you have to practice being a non-perfectionist. As I pointed out earlier, perfectionism is almost incurable, but you can get to the point where you are not obsessive about it. You can perhaps actually find satisfaction in being more relaxed and less self-critical about what you do and how you feel about yourself.
I recommend putting aside some hours or even a day a week where you intentionally allow yourself to be a lot less than perfect. Not quite a slob, but going in that direction. For example, try not washing the dishes right away. If you never leave the house without make-up, go out without it. Don’t check your e-mails for half a day at least. Switch off your cell phone. Don’t return texts or phone calls. Don’t make the bed. But do it all consciously and with full awareness of how it feels. It will create anxiety at first, but push through it.
Something else you might try is to get some paints like the ones kids use at school and do some paintings freestyle. Try finger painting even. If you have kids, do it with them. Refuse to be limited by having to stay within lines or do things ‘properly.’ Be sure to put your paintings up where you can see them and leave them there for all to see for at least two days. They do not need to look good, pretty or like any work of art at all. Just free expression.
Have fun with it, and for goodness sake don’t try to do it right? OK?
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Background Just in case you haven’t been reading my blogs over the last few weeks, I have focused on a couple of aspects of Radical Manifestation: Money and weight loss. But there’s no limit to what you can create with this process.
So join me today at 4:00 pm Eastern time to learn more about the power of Radical Manifestation.
Just talking about manifestation is not enough to make the Law of Attraction work for you. You have to get your mind out of the way and allow your spiritual intelligence work for you. That means you have to use the Radical Manifestation Worksheet. And that’s what I will be talking to you about today, so be sure not to miss it.
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Radical Manifestation: Your Weight Loss Secret Weapon
As I noted last week, when I ask “What do you want to manifest?” the first answer is usually “More money!” The second answer I hear is “Weight loss.”
People often don’t realize that manifestation is not about creating money; it’s about creating the life you want. This act of creation can take many forms, and the Universe is very creative and obliging in helping us.
Just as I outlined with manifesting money last week, you have to shift your thinking around weight loss in order to make it happen.
As we know, the paradigm shift of Radical Forgiveness is that we have chosen our path of separation in order to truly experience Oneness. But our experience of separation is painful, and our body is the vehicle our soul inhabits during this time. Is it any wonder we are not only obsessed with our bodies, but hate them for the same reason?
Having taken on a body as a symbol of separation, it follows that the body must also symbolize the intense pain that inevitably accompanies the sense of separation. Don’t you think part of us might remember what it is like to be just spirit and wish we were no longer encumbered with a body?
The body issue over which we constantly obsess is the issue of weight. It serves as one of our most convenient targets for self-hatred, and continues to enable an extremely profitable weight loss market. We “buy in” to the notion of an ideal body, the criteria for which virtually no one can hope to meet, and our body hatred is further cemented.
Weight As Protection Weight is not only a convenient expression of our self-hatred; many people carry a lot of excess weight because of their history of sexual abuse, in childhood or as an adult. The fear of sexual abuse or assault can also cause people to gain weight.
The weight forms a protective shield, and food becomes a pain-numbing comforter, as addictive as drugs or alcohol, and more difficult because we can’t just give it up, we have to change how we use it. We can all live without any drugs or alcohol, but we can’t live without food, setting up a constant struggle.
But the protective weight shield and the use of food as a painkiller doesn’t work, it only serves to make you unhappy and unhealthy.
Radical Forgiveness First: The Paradigm Shift
Radical Forgiveness will allow you to shift your consciousness away from victim to whole and complete spiritual being. No matter how traumatic your experience, you can give up the victim story and make a powerful paradigm shift that will allow you to release the weight, easily and naturally.
In other words, when you heal the wound, the need for the weight as protection or as a confirmation of your self-hatred drops away… and the pounds drop away as well.
Radical Forgiveness + Radical Manifestation
This is a powerful duo! Once you’ve made the Radical Forgiveness paradigm shift and heal, you can use the Radical Manifestation tools to create the body you want. How cool is that!
Let’s take another look at the sub-title of my book, Radical Manifestation, which is The Fine Art of Creating the Life You Want:
What does that mean to you?
What kind of life do you want to create?
If you had the means to create what you want, what do you actually want?
To really make Radical Manifestation work, it is necessary to make a shift in our perception about reality. Things we are programmed to believe need to be questioned and revised to free us from the pain of the past and bring us into the joy of today.
On June 26th at 4:00 pm Eastern , I’ll show you exactly how to use
the Radical Manifestation Worksheet
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The sub-title of my book, Radical Manifestation, is “The Fine Art of Creating the Life You Want.” If you had the means to manifest what you want, what would you create? When I ask people this, their first response is, “More money.” And why not? Money makes the world go round.
Because of our programming, most of us are conditioned to accept up to a certain amount of it in our lives, and thereafter we repel it. Consequently, our ‘set-point’ limits our money flow and ensures it stays pretty constant all our lives.
These beliefs about money get in the way of manifesting the amount you want. To counteract this problem, we suggest you use a Money Consciousness Worksheet along with the Radical Manifestation worksheet.
To learn more about to how to use Radical Manifestation and the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want, don’t miss the webinar at 4:00 PM Eastern time on Thursday, June 26th.
We all have a love/hate relationship with money. Those that don’t have much hate it because it eludes them, while those who do have it hoard it and have a constant fear of losing it.
We attach a great deal of meaning to money that it simply doesn’t have. We measure ourselves by how much or how little we have. We measure the worth of others by the same yardstick, and we make judgments about them… and ourselves… based on what we do with our money. It is a great source of worry and stress.
To really make Radical Manifestation work, it is necessary to make a shift in our perception about reality. Things we are programmed to believe need to be questioned and revised. Yes, you want more money… but it’s not really about the money, it’s about what you can DO with the money.
There are a million things that make life worth living that don’t require money. And there are many ways things can come to you, so why put your focus on manifesting money? Just ask for what you want and let the Universe take care of it. Use a Radical Manifestation Worksheet to ask for what you want and leave it to the Universe to work out how to provide it. The Universe is very creative!
Doing it this way will bypass all that your mind would ordinarily throw up at you relating to money. Like, ‘I don’t deserve it;’ ‘money is bad;’ ‘ I shouldn’t ask for money’ and more of that kind of rubbish.
In the upcoming webinar on June 26th, I will show you exactly how to use the Radical Manifestation Worksheet to get the best results. Don’t miss it.
How Much Money Will You Attract?
Contrary to how we have been taught, there is NO shortage of money. There is more than enough to go around. Like any form of energy, it will flow towards those who attract it and away from those who repel it. Haven’t you noticed that some people are magnets for money while others are always struggling to have more than a meager amount in their lives?
Using Radical Manifestation and Money Consciousness worksheets, you can slowly move your ‘income set-point’ progressively higher to allow more and more money to flow towards you. Our X4 Radical Money Program can speed up this process, with the aim to quadruple your income over two years (hence the title, X4).
But make sure you use the money for its intended purpose and for no other. This is very important! If you don’t stick to this rule, the whole thing is liable to fall apart. Expect a miracle and you won’t be disappointed!
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For the last few weeks, I’ve been writing about keeping your energy clear and your vibration high. The other benefit to this is that you may well prevent cancer from forming.
It’s not that unforgiveness causes cancer… it’s that the suppression of anger, resentment, and grief disrupts the normal operation of our bodies.
Stanford University researchers found that women who repressed their emotions were more likely to show disruptions in the normal balance of the stress hormone cortisol.
The Journal of Psychosomatic Research reported that extreme suppression of anger was the most commonly identified characteristic of 160 breast cancer patients.
A University of Colorado study found that people who repressed their emotions after a traumatic event had lower immune systems than those who shared their feelings.
These disruptions lead to weakened immune system responses, and it’s this weakened immune system that opens the door to diseases such as cancer.
I’m certainly not denying that you may get cancer regardless of your emotional well-being. The genetic link to cancer has been well proven, and some people without the gene who are healthy emotionally may have some other immune system breakdown that allows cancer to grow. But one of the well-documented links does appear to be between repressing your feelings and cancer.
To assess your own risk of getting cancer, people who stoically deny their feelings conform to what has come to be known as the “Type C” personality. This is virtually the same as “the cancer personality,” described by researcher and scientist O. Carl Simonton as someone who:
Represses their emotions
Maintains a facade of pleasantness
Never expresses anger
Strives excessively to please authority figures
Self-sacrificing and non-assertive
Focuses attention on others and away from themselves
Is this you? If so, many researchers believe you are more vulnerable to cancer than people who are more assertive and take better care of themselves, physically and emotionally. You can read more about this in Application #4 of my book 25 Uses for Radical Forgiveness.
The prevention? Using Radical Forgiveness techniques to feel your feelings, reframe your victim story, and let go of the past. By clearing your energy you’ll raise your vibration to a much higher level, allowing healing energy to flow all through your body. Your immune system will thank you.
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