I mentioned in the previous blog that Radical Forgiveness is the ONLY antidote to victim consciousness. I say “the only antidote” because it is the one and only form of forgiveness that recognizes that, from a spiritual perspective, nothing wrong happened. Consequently, there are no victims or perpetrators. Conventional forgiveness simply does not go as far as that, so it more or less maintains the victim perspective.

Nevertheless, according to the “Soul’s Journey,” model I propose in my latest book, Expanding Into Love, A Handbook for Awakening to Who You Are, having a victim consciousness is, paradoxically, essential to our purpose for being here. Let me explain.

You probably heard me say before that I make an assumption that we came here to learn the nature of Oneness (Love) and to that end we agreed to experience the opposite of it — separation. But we had to agree to remain oblivious to this agreement for around the first half of our life, otherwise we wouldn’t play the required game of being a victim many times over.

When we have reached the amount of Karmic units we signed up for (a KU is a unit of the pain of separation), we then go through an awakening. At that point we begin to remember who we are and what life really is all about. And that’s when we have to begin letting go of victim consciousness. That means going back along the timeline of our lives and doing the forgiveness work on all those people about whom we have harbored a grievance.

This would be almost impossible were it not for Radical Forgiveness. But even with it, there is a short cut that will save you a lot of time and effort. Here’s how:

If you analyze the underlying dynamic of your accumulated grievances, you will inevitably find that nearly all have their origins in wounds experienced in childhood.

Such wounds run the gamut from severe physical or sexual abuse to offhand remarks that were hurtful, broken promises, or something that made you feel unloved, abandoned or unappreciated. Such wounds get played out in later life as a repeating pattern, but they originated in childhood.

The short cut is to use Breaking Free: A 21-day Online Program for Forgiving Your Parents. This invaluable program will not only have you forgive them for “not being perfect,” it will take care of all the other grievances as well… all in one go. This is because it is the same energy pattern holding them all together, so by forgiving your parents, you collapse that entire energy field.

Doing this online program is the quickest and easiest way to free yourself of the energy associated with victim consciousness. Even if you have awakened (which you must have done, otherwise you would not be reading this), and understand that it was all perfect, those old energy patterns will remain stuck in the cellular structure of your body until they get ‘deleted.’ Only then can you replace them with the new story that it was all part of the divine plan: Not only did you actually chose your parents, you made agreements with them prior to coming in that they would give you the possibility to experience the pain of separation in many different ways. They did a great job of that, didn’t they?

So, in order to clear out your entire emotional closet from now right back to birth, click here to register for Breaking Free: A 21-day Online Program for Forgiving Your Parents, and break free.

As I noted last week, this summer I am on a mission to bring the transformative power of Radical Forgiveness to my native land of England. I will be keeping a video log of my travels, and I hope you will join me by visiting my YouTube channel. My blog posts will also focus on the Radical Forgiveness strategy, to give fuller meaning to my quest. [That’s not say I won’t respond to events as they occur from time to time and give my ‘radical forgiveness,’ perspective on them where I can.]

Of all the Radical Living Strategies, Radical Forgiveness is the one that is foundational to all. And it is the basis for what has become known as The Tipping Method.

In the chapter I contributed to the collaborative book, 27 Flavors of Fulfillment, How to Live Live to the Fullest, edited by Nathan Crane, I gave the definition of Radical Forgiveness as follows:

“To be open to Radical Forgiveness is to have the intellectual courage and willingness to entertain the possibility that God makes no mistakes; that events happen not TO us but FOR us; and that everything occurs has meaning and purpose in terms of our self-created divine plan and our desire to evolve as spiritual beings.”

A more succinct way of putting it, which is beautifully paradoxical: “Radical Forgiveness is forgiveness that recognizes the perfection in the imperfection.”

Radical Forgiveness is also the antidote to victim consciousness. Compare the definition of RF above to the definition of victim consciousness, as written in my book Radical Forgiveness, and the contrast becomes clear: “The conviction that someone has done something bad to me, and, as a direct result he/she or they are responsible for the lack of peace and unhappiness in my life.”

Make no mistake, victim consciousness is a billion dollar industry. Lawyers make a fortune encouraging it. Opportunists make millions bringing law suits about having been actually or allegedly (makes no difference to the lawyers), victimized in some way. TV shows such as 20/20 get excellent ratings with its stories of perpetrators and victims. Society feeds our insatiable appetite and pervasive addiction to it. As I write in the Introduction of my book, Radical Forgiveness:

Who among us could say they have never blamed someone else for their lack of happiness? For most of us, that is simply a way of life.

Indeed, the victim archetype is deeply engrained in all of us, and it exerts great power in the mass consciousness. For eons we have been playing out victimhood in every aspect of our lives, convincing ourselves that victim consciousness is absolutely fundamental to the human condition.
The time has come to ask ourselves the question — how can we stop creating our lives this way and let go of the victim archetype as the model of how to live our lives?

To break free from such a powerful archetype, we must replace it with something radically different — something so compelling and spiritually liberating that it magnetizes us away from the victim archetype and the world of illusion. We need something that will take us beyond the drama of our lives so we can see the big picture and the truth that, right now, lies hidden from us. When we awaken to that truth, we will understand the true meaning of our suffering and be able to transform it immediately.

Jesus gave a powerful demonstration of what transforming the victim archetype means and I believe he now waits patiently and lovingly for us to follow his lead. Up to now at least, we have failed to learn from his example precisely because the victim archetype has had such a strong hold in our psyche. In order to feed our addiction, we have made him the ultimate victim. This will not move us forward in our spiritual evolution. True forgiveness must include letting go completely of victim consciousness.

And that’s Radical Forgiveness.

From the beginning of June until November, JoAnn and I will be based in England.  We’ll be offering the 4-1/2 day bonus training to become a Radical Living Coach, as well as a bunch of weekend workshops and evening lectures.

In the Afterword of my book, Radical Forgiveness: Making Room for the Miracle, I suggested that Princess Diana chose to die in the way she did in order to open the heart chakra of England.  Well, my mission is to pry it open even more.

I will do it by using social media to increase the awareness of how Radical Forgiveness can improve people’s lives and raise their vibration.  My intention is to do as many ‘on-the-fly-videos’ as I can – the theme being: Mr. Radical Forgiveness Goes to England.  The videos will be light and spontaneous and hopefully entertaining enough for people to want to watch them.

My vision is that, initially, people like you, who know me and love the work, will watch them…  and then begin tweeting about them and posting the videos on Facebook.  The hope is that the videos will go viral and resonate not just with English folks but anyone who would benefit from knowing about Radical Forgiveness.  It’s time the word got out in a wider way.  Don’t you agree? 

So will you do it?  If you have felt the benefit of Radical Forgiveness in your life, this is a really good way to give back.  First of all, go to www.colintipping.com/Youtube to watch the video kicking this off.

Then, register for a free e-mail copy of my book, Getting to Heaven on a Harley.  (See Instructions below.)  Do it even if you already have a copy.  That way, I will know that you are on board, and I will stay in touch with you during the whole 6 months I am away. Just check the box to be on the list of those who want to join me on the journey.

Instructions:
1. Enter your e-mail address in the field at the top right of this page where it says, “For Colin’s Blog and Free Stuff.” 

2. If you have never registered before, you will be taken to a page where you can check the appropriate boxes to indicate that you want to follow me on my quest. 

3. If you have previously registered, still enter your e-mail address and click Register.  A page will open asking if you want to change your subscription.  Click Submit.  You will then get an e-mail with a link to the page where you can place a check in the box for Mr. Radical Forgiveness Goes to England. 

Finally, if you are living in England or in countries nearby, give some serious consideration to coming to one or more of the workshops, or even the live training with me to become a Radical Living Coach if that excites you.  We’d love to have you.  The website to go to for these events – right now – is www.radicalforgiveness.co.uk.  And please tell your friends about it.

Thank you.

Summer is here, and I know many people start to think about losing weight in order to feel better about themselves as they dress for and participate in summer activities. If you are one of those people who has ridden the diet roller coaster for what seems like a million summers, here’s news: No amount of dieting will get rid of excess body fat if it is serving an emotional function.

The most common function extra weight performs is protection. This can be protection from generalized hurt and rejection, but most frequently it is protection from real sexual attack or the fear of sexual attack.

As I mentioned in last week’s blog about Ariel Castro, the sexual abuse of children is rampant in our society. It is estimated that 20% of adults were sexually molested in their childhood years. Children almost always think they are at fault, and so they grow up steeped in a potent mixture of repressed fear and guilt.

One of the effects of the powerful energetic imprint of sexual abuse is the holding of an inordinate amount of weight around the lower abdomen and hips – the second chakra. We find that people tend to drop this weight as soon as they heal their victim story around the sexual coercion or incest.

We have seen those who have put on an inordinate amount of weight around the lower abdomen and hips (second chakra), tend to drop it as soon as they heal their victim story around the sexual coercion or incest. That’s why the tag line for my Radical Weight Loss Program is, “The only things you have to give up in this program is the story that caused the weight gain in the first place.”

While actual sexual abuse is often the trauma that needs to be healed, the body also puts on excess weight to reinforce feelings of inadequacy and of being unloved. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy that feeds on itself: The worse I feel about myself, the fatter I become; the fatter I become, the worse I feel about myself.

The solution for all of this is Radical Forgiveness. Once you can heal your victim story, the weight no longer serves a purpose and begins to fall away.

We have a special Radical Forgiveness program to help you get out of the cycle of dieting and denial. Our Radical Weight Loss program is available as an online course, which means you can start today. Why don’t you take a look at the last weight loss program you’ll ever need? 

Click here to get started now.

Oh boy! Another huge Radical Forgiveness challenge this week. How on earth can we forgive Ariel Castro, the seemingly depraved, animalistic torturer, jailer, rapist and alleged murderer who kept three women and a child captive in his house for 10 years?

All I can say at this point is that I am working on it. I’m doing my best to find a way to trust in knowing that the Universe had a plan, or that, as the Congressional Chaplain put it a few days after 9/11, “The hand of God was in there somewhere.” But it is a struggle.

I don’t usually do this, but let me make a stab at why Spirit might set something up like this. As a noted psychiatrist said on the PBS News Hour last night, “let’s not forget that many thousands of girls in this country of ours suffer almost exactly this kind of thing in their own homes, for years on end, at the hands of their own fathers or step-fathers. Incest in this country is endemic, and no one is talking about it.”

Could the purpose be, then, that those many thousands of young girls, now grown, who suffered the trauma of incest or coerced sex from step-fathers or siblings, might recognize their own suffering in this story and will come forward and say, “Yes, me too— that’s my story,” and finally begin to heal? Or perhaps girls who are currently being abused might find the strength to bring it to light?

Even if they don’t speak out, they at least will know that others have suffered as they suffered, and it will give them another opportunity to bring their pain up for healing. So, maybe the intention was to bring all this up to reveal something to us. Look what happened in India. One incident of gang rape created a mass demonstration countrywide protesting the way women are used and abused. The same could happen here, if only we would begin the conversation.

If, by any chance, this is resonating for you and you can identify with this, or you have someone close to you who has suffered in this way, please do consider using the Radical Forgiveness programs, or use a Radical Forgiveness Practitioner to help heal the residual pain once and for all. We have many people who have been horribly sexually abused attend our workshops. The results are always amazing.

Even if you do not have a personal history of abuse, maintaining a Radical Forgiveness perspective is challenging. If you you are struggling to hold the higher vibration, I suggest you download a Radical Forgiveness worksheet. Click on Free Stuff on the top menu and do one on Ariel Castro. Not only will this help you, energetically it will help the women heal from the trauma, and hopefully bring peace to Castro’s daughter. If enough people do this is will make a significant different at the energetic level, because we are all One.

In my blog about the Boston bombing I made the point that doing a “spiritual bypass,” in which we avoid feeling the pain of something that has happened by immediately going to some spiritual reframe of the event, is to deny our humanity. We are made as feeling beings and to deny that fact is to deny our reason for being here in a human body.

That’s why I say that Radical Forgiveness, which does attempt to reframe events in spiritual terms, is not an intervention technique. It only works if we first let the emotional energy move through us as feelings, and then, when we can be more reflective, do the work on reframing the situation in the spiritual context. But all in good time.

Even then, our mind will want to come in and negate any attempt to put a spiritual interpretation on it. That’s why we have worksheets. They enable us to bypass the mind and go straight to our Spiritual Intelligence. Even though to do a worksheet feels like we are just faking it, our Higher Self knows the truth and helps us come to peace.

I promised I would do a Radical Transformation worksheet on the bombing itself and post it, so here it is. With this worksheet, the focus is on the event itself and how it makes us feel. If we want to work on our feelings towards the two bombers, we would need to use a Radical Forgiveness worksheet.

Anyway, try this and see if it helps you to feel more peaceful. It will help to shift the energy in the situation itself that is the real underlying cause of this event and will contribute to bringing Love to the situation. Only Love is real and Love will heal everything — eventually.

Click here to download my worksheet. Radical Transformation Worksheet Boston Marathon

You’ve been asking for it, and here it is… Expanding into Love is now available as an eBook!

This book is very unique and particularly well-suited to the e-book format, because it contains more than 40 interactive links that take you directly to extra resources. There is an exclusive membership site just for readers that contain videos, audios, songs and additional text. All of this is designed to support you in your awakening to who you are and creating enlightened relationships, which in turn raises the vibration throughout the whole world.

The Expanding into Love e-book is available to you now for just $9.99 – 50% less than the paperback version.

Expanding into Love means empowering ourselves to live consciously, stay awake, live our purpose, keep our hearts open, and remain connected in every moment to all that is, no matter what is happening. This book will help you do exactly that, and I’m happy to be able to offer it to you in a variety of formats.

Order your copy of the Expanding into Love e-book today.  I look forward to you saying “Yes” to creating enlightened relationships in your life.

Blessings,

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Workshop & Book in One – I was so excited to see that the companion website for this book is live! I’ve watched a few of the videos (there are several!), Colin is such a wonderful teacher, you’ll really get a lot out of the videos and the other teachings that go with this book. I also love Karen Taylor Good’s music, and there are a few selections of hers available on the site as well. I feel like I won the “spiritual lottery”, I know that this insightful book and the mini-classes that Colin is offering along with it will make a big difference in my life. His method for shifting your perspective about all your relationships (not just your partner) is mind-blowing in its simplicity, and it really works.
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Ronna’s story was prolonged childhood sexual abuse, and she was still full of repressed rage.  Not only could you feel it, you could see it in her face.  She had worked hard on it, though, and was determined to make a movie to help others who had experienced the same kind of thing.  But the film was stalled and she was stuck and, for some reason, was unable to move ahead on the project.

Fast forward to the beginning of 2013: In March the much changed film, entitled Sacred Journey of the Heart, premiered in Sedona. It immediately began to win wide acclaim. It is now being screened in cities all around the country — next week in Atlanta.  So, what happened?

According to Ronna, it was all due to Radical Forgiveness and what she had experienced in that workshop.  Immediately after it, she scrapped the film she had already begun and started over.  The film she and co-producer Donald Backstrom produced became the vehicle with which to share her wound, her rage, her vulnerability and, as a result of opening her heart, her healing.

She had realized that Radical Forgiveness was the key, and she chose to go through her process on her own film using ‘Satori’, the Radical Forgiveness Game, as the vehicle.  In the film, the viewer gets to see her moving through her healing journey for real, and it is both shocking and beautiful to see.  We get to see her literally transform before our eyes, and we get the healing too.  

When you see how she looked at the beginning of the movie compared to the end, when she engages many teachers and spiritual masters in the conversation about the meaning of healing, the difference is staggering.  She is like a different person, younger and more beautiful than before, the pain having been transformed into a profound peace in her heart.

Ronna was adamant that since Radical Forgiveness was such a huge part of her healing journey, I should be included in the film, along with many great teachers, and that the Radical Forgiveness process itself should feature prominently.  They brought a film crew from Arizona to Atlanta to record my conversation with her and to film the Gender Healing Ceremony.  I am delighted with the result and am very proud to be associated with the film.  We run the trailer for it on the Home Page.

Ronna has since become a certified Radical Forgiveness coach and is taking the message of Radical Forgiveness with her as she tours with the film.  She and Donald will be screening the movie at the One World Church in Marietta on Friday, May 3rd and will follow that with a 10:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m. workshop on Saturday.  They will share their experience and demonstrate the principles of Heart Math.  In the afternoon, JoAnn and I will offer the Radical Forgiveness Circle Ceremony.

It will be a wonderful event, I am certain, so if you are in the Atlanta area, be sure to make it a priority.  Tickets for the screening are $10 pre-sale, $15 at the door.  Tickets for the workshop are $120 pre-sale and $125 at the door.  Get your tickets online at www.sacredjourneyoftheheart.com/ under the Film Events tab.  I look forward to seeing you at both events.  Don’t miss it!

Blessings,

Colin

P.S. There are also events planned in the Arizona area.  You can read about them at http://www.sacredjourneyoftheheart.com/Screenings/Events

P.P.S. Follow this link to purchase a copy of this inspirational film (currently only available in the USA);  https://cu116.infusionsoft.com/go/SJOTH_DVD/cp/

As individuals we are always having our projections mirrored back to us by other people.  It’s how we serve one another and heal each other.  What we usually see reflected back is our own self-hatred and the parts of our shadow that we have denied about ourselves and repressed.  It gives us a chance to see them, acknowledge them and heal them.

Interestingly, though, countries do the same thing.  North Korea is currently a case in point.  The crazies in North Korea have an utter conviction that they need a nuclear weapon for no other reason than the paranoid belief that America is bent on destroying them at any moment. They are reflecting back to us, in a very big way, our underlying paranoia about the very same thing: that the biggest threat to the “American” way of life is America itself.

The least discussed but most worrying idea put forward by the anti-gun-control lobby is that everyone in this country should be able to freely own virtually any kind of gun we wish, including military style weapons — in order to defend ourselves against the American Government.  If that isn’t paranoia, I don’t know what is.  It also seems to me to be profoundly unpatriotic.

Now, I can certainly understand how the Government poses threats of the more insidious kind; for instance, being in league with the likes of Monsanto and the other big corporations who seek to limit our freedoms and rip us off.  I am an enthusiastic gun owner and I love to hunt, but for the life of me I cannot envisage any kind of scenario where having a gun of any kind at my front porch would require its use against my own government.  Not in this country, surely.

Why would they be coming for me personally? Who would I be shooting?  Am I likely to gun down some government official with a clipboard coming down my path heading for my front door?  Am I to imagine myself mowing down one or more soldiers fully armed and trained to kill, perhaps?  Would I and my really nice Spanish over & under 12g shotgun gun be a match for anything the Government would throw at me if it ever came to a showdown or shootout?  Of course not.  Not even if it was an AK47— something I have no use for or interest in owning.  But if it’s your cuppa tea, that’s OK by me so long as it doesn’t feed your paranoia and make you crazy like Kim Jong Un.

Kim Jong Un may seem totally out of his mind, but looking at it from a Radical Forgiveness perspective he is a healing angel who is giving us an amazing opportunity to look at our deepest trust issues — most likely left over from the wounds created by, I’ll admit, the greed of the 18^th century British government.  If we as a people cannot trust our government to the extent that we worry about them shooting us down at our own doorstep, something is terribly wrong with our view of the world as it is now and our faith in our fellow Americans.

Back in 2003 I wrote a book called A Radical Incarnation.  It featured a story about two souls who were to incarnate, become leaders of their respective countries, and then set about mirroring the shadow stuff each country had denied and buried and needed to heal.  One would become the President of the United States and the other the Dictator of a country in the Middle East.  They would slug it out until they realized they were healing angels for each other and then awaken and heal.

When it was written it was just a story – a spiritual fantasy.  But a couple years later it proved quite prophetic.  Bush and Saddam really got into it and mirrored a great deal for each other, but they didn’t get what was really happening and just did what people who are oblivious of what is really happening always do.  They created a war.  They simply enacted the classic attack and defense cycle that heals nothing.  It was a lost opportunity.  I doubt this one will be any different.

It is precisely at times like this that my faith in the Radical Forgiveness concept is sorely tested.  How can what happened in Boston be part of any Divine plan?  Why would a soul choose that?

But enough already!  It is much too soon to contemplate such things.  Things have to be done.  Lives have to be saved.  Bodies need mending, minds need healing and the perpetrators need to be found and brought to justice.  And there are a lot of things we can be doing of an energetic nature that will make a difference.

It was for events exactly like this that I created the Radical Transformation Worksheet.  This my newest Radical Forgiveness tool, and it is designed to help us deal with these things that happen outside of ourselves so we don’t buy into the fear and lower our vibration in the face of suffering.  It is the tool that helps us keep a grip on the idea that there is meaning in everything, no matter how it may seem. This helps us transcend the pain and transform the energy for all concerned.  Because it shifts energy, this is a no less helpful activity than doing what has to be done at the front line. 

If you would like to make a difference in this way, you can download one for free in Colin’s Cafe in the Free Stuff section. Click on the Free Stuff banner on the left side of the home page.  I will do one myself as an example and post it next week when people are more able to be reflective about the event and willing to transform their own consciousness regarding what happened. 

Of all athletic events in the world, the Marathon is the one that is all about the strength of the human spirit.  It is the one event which chokes me up and makes me cry, not so much at the end, but at the start when I see that great crowd surge forward, eager to take on that immense personal challenge.  At age 42 my own daughter ran the London Marathon, and I was incredibly proud of her. 

What I am sure of is that no one hate-filled bomber or group of bombers can ever break that spirit.  On the contrary, it will only strengthen it.  This is not peculiar to Americans.  It was the case after the London Underground bombing.  I’m sure the same is true for the Iraqis who go through this kind of thing every week or so, and for the Syrians who are dealing with it right now on a daily basis.  Our prayers need to be with them too this week, more mindfully now, perhaps, just because of our own suffering here at home.  When we hurt together we heal together.  I am sure they are finding time and space, even while dodging bullets and missiles, to pray for us right now.

Thousands have used social media as a vehicle for their prayers for the victims and their families, which is great.  But let’s not forget to pray for the person or people that planted the bombs as well.  My prayer is that the terrible hatred and bitterness that fills their hearts be released and transformed so they can expand into Love and be at peace.  At the time of writing we have no idea about their identity, but better that we radically forgive them now before we know who they are and have a human being on whom to project our own violent natures just so we can stay in denial about them.  There’s food for thought here for the current gun control debate.  Could the bombers be mirrors for the violence in our collective consciousness in a nation where thousands die by the gun every week of the year?