Weening yourself away from victimhood is really the first step in developing a Radical Living consciousness. You cannot be in a peaceful state if you are holding resentment and anger about things that have happened in the past or continue to rob you of your peace even now. It is incredibly disempowering to make others responsible for your lack of happiness.
The answer, of course, is forgiveness. But don’t worry. We have a way to do it that is not at all difficult. It’s not like conventional forgiveness which is hard to do and rarely works. Radical Forgiveness is a simple step-by-step process that is fast, easy and extremely effective. It provides tools that enable you to quickly release whatever energies you are holding onto.
If you are like most people, in order to achieve the kind of peace that Radical Living implies, you’ll probably need to forgive one or more of the following: your parents, your partner(s), your kids, your siblings, your boss, your co-workers, not to mention doctors, lawyers, the government and other institutions. No matter whether the issues you have with these folks are small or large, it still necessary to do the work on each one to clear that energy out of your body and raise your vibration. The tools you need are provided and many of them are free. (see below.) But some of them are very specific and targeted towards particular people such parents or partners.
The longer term benefits of are improved health, more energy, expanded relationships, more prosperity, greater happiness, more peace in your life, and so on.
Watch the video below the links to learn more. [If you prefer to read the script, scroll down to the bottom of the page.]
Free Tools for Radical Forgiveness (This link will take you to the Radical Living Association Membership Page. The FREE stuff is located there since it is available to members also. You don’t have to join though. Just sign in and select FREE STUFF.)
• The Downloadable (Paper) Radical Forgiveness Worksheet
• The Radical Forgiveness Online Worksheet (write and print out)
• The Emerge-n-See 4-Step Process Worksheet (pdf)
• The Release Letter to Your Higher Self (pdf)
• The Three Letters Radical Forgiveness Process (Explaining how)
Online Programs for Radical Forgiveness (Enroll here for these)
• The Radical Forgiveness Interactive Online Worksheet
• The Radical Self-Forgiveness Interactive Online Worksheet
• CD—The 13 Steps to Radical Forgiveness Companion CD
• CD Set (6 CDs) The Power of Radical Forgiveness
• CD Set (3 CDs) Radical Forgiveness
• Online Program: ‘Breaking Free,’ A 21-day Program for Forgiving Your Parents
• Online Program: ‘Moving Forward,’ A 21-day Program for Forgiving Your Partner
• Online Program: ‘Harmony Works,’ A 21-day Program for Forgiving Your Co-Workers
• Online Program: ‘Great Expectations,’ A 21-day Program for Forgiving Your Kids
• Online Program: ‘Family Matters,’ A 21-day Program for Forgiving Your Sibling
• Online Program: ‘Satori’ – The Radical Forgiveness Board Game
We also have a similar set of tools for Radical Self Forgiveness, including a three-part Online Program. We find that most people find self-forgiveness a lot more difficult that forgiving others but the fact is that the tools for both Radical Self-Forgiveness and Radical Self-Acceptance work just as well as the Radical Forgiveness tools. For more information on those and about Colin’s long awaited new book, Radical Self-Forgiveness, The Direct Path to True Self-Acceptance, go to Strategies/Radical-Empowerment/
For Additional Information About Radical Forgiveness, Watch This 2nd Video (Script provided below)
Step Up to Radical Living Using These Life-Changing Strategies
So here you are at the Radical Forgiveness page. Since this is the primary strategy in the Tipping Method repertoire, from which all the others spring, I will go a little deeper with the explanation of this one than I have with the others .
But if you want to really understand Radical Forgiveness you only have to read the assumptions listed on the Assumptions Page. If you get them, you get Radical Forgiveness. What they imply is that if everything that happens to us in life is all part of a divine plan and meant to happen the way it does, then there is nothing to forgive. Period. That’s it. Radical Forgiveness in a nutshell.
Radical Forgiveness Comprises Five Stages:
1. Telling the (victim) story. 2. Feeling the Feelings. 3. Collapsing the Story. 4. Reframing the Story. 5. Integrating the New Story.
The first three are more or less the same as conventional forgiveness. We first explain how we were victimized while becoming present to our feelings about what happened. Then we do our best to bring to the situation understanding, compassion and empathy for the person we are upset with, and perhaps even imagine walking in their shoes for a while. We also try to strip away all the interpretations, judgments and expectations that we may have added to the situation and which had served only to increase our anger and suffering. That would at least leave us with the actual facts of what happened or how things really were at the time.
But, even so, we still haven’t let our victimizer off the hook. We still hold that he or she (or an organization, perhaps) did—or is doing—something wrong or bad to us. We haven’t really let go of our victimhood and therein lies the limitation of conventional forgiveness. It cannot free us from victim consciousness. Radical Forgiveness, on the other hand, is designed to do just that and is the purpose behind the fourth and fifth stages. In those stages we are invited to try ‘reframing’our upset – that is, to see it through fresh eyes. It asks us to be willing to look at the possibility that there might be a spiritual purpose behind everything that happens, and that what happened to make us feel victimized was actually what our ‘spiritual self’ had wanted for its growth, and that our spiritual intelligence had created the situation for us.
Belief is not necessary at all. But when we become willing to embrace it as a possibility, not only do we feel immediate peace around the situation but every aspect of our lives begins to change. This is because we begin to see everything else as being divinely inspired too, even when to our human eyes it looks terrible. Not only is it a shift in perception but a shift in energy too which is why the effect is so far reaching.
The tools are simple worksheets, an audio version of the worksheet called The 13 Steps to Radical Forgiveness, a game and some online programs. It is in the execution of these processes that the fifth step, integration of the new story (the reframed version), actually occurs.